In a modest settlement near Johannesburg, a group of men gather with a common goal: to combat the pervasive violence against women in South Africa. Among them is Kgomotso Mathekga, who candidly recounts his own past of domestic violence. “I often see men hitting women,” he says, acknowledging his own failings in a moment of anger with a former partner. The meeting, held in the Organic Market area, is part of an initiative to address this pressing issue.
Community Efforts to Tackle Gender-Based Violence
At the heart of this community gathering is Itumeleng Stephen Tamaga, affectionately known as Bra Steve. He rallies the men with a call to action against gender-based violence and femicide, emphasizing the importance of unity. Bra Steve leads Father A Nation, a non-profit organization dedicated to encouraging positive masculinity and ending violence against women.
In light of recent tragic events, including the discovery of twelve women’s bodies in Ekurhuleni, the urgency of the situation is clear. President Cyril Ramaphosa’s recent announcement of measures to improve women’s safety highlights the government’s acknowledgment of the crisis. However, many, including those at the meeting, feel more needs to be done.
The Role of Men in Creating Change
Craig Wilkinson, the founder of Father A Nation, underscores the importance of dialogue and education in transforming attitudes. “We help men process their feelings and teach them about healthy masculinity,” he explains. The organization runs programs across schools and communities, aiming to reduce gender-based violence through education and engagement.
Among the participants is Zizipho Mtwesi, who stresses the necessity of preemptive action rather than reactive measures. He expresses frustration over the need for tragic events to catalyze change and urges men to recognize their potential role as protectors and allies.
Women’s Voices and Concerns
While men convene to address these issues, women in the community express their fears. Linkie, a local resident, voices her anxiety about safety when outside her home. Providence Maseko, another community member, shares her skepticism and fear of trusting strangers, a sentiment echoed by many.
Bra Steve encourages open conversations to build trust and understanding, inviting women to join the discussions. This dialogue is seen as a crucial step toward safety and mutual respect in the community.
Looking Ahead
As the meeting concludes, the message is clear: every man must play a role in ending violence against women. Mathekga, inspired by the discussions, emphasizes the need for new role models in the community. “We must become the change we want to see,” he asserts, highlighting the importance of collective responsibility in shaping a safer society for all.
